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Let's talk about twenty things you can do to boost your confidence. Some of these may be a little crazy, but there could be hella fun for you!
Get naked, in your own home please, walk around the house nude helps you become more confident in your own skin. Trust me. It's a thing.
Do something crazy that is out of character for you sign up for a marathon, go mountain climbing, and scuba diving.
Learn something new. Take a class. Read a book. Watch online videos.
Whatever you're feeling less confident in, take a stand-up comedy class. Laughing at your supper. Making us laugh is a great way to build confidence.
Get in shape without joining a gym, take up a martial art class.
Learn to line dance, anything like that to get your body moving softly, flirt with others.
Strutt your stuff, light flirting with others without taking it any further can make you really feel good about yourself.
Join a good cause. When you have others, you feel good because you've contributed to someone else's betterment.
Join the selfie crusade, take good ones take bad ones take crazy ones.
Go someplace nobody will recognize you and cut loose. Be bold, laugh out loud, sing and dance. Participate in karaoke nights. This is my favorite singing release, feel-good endorphins.
Teach a class and it doesn't matter the topic. Just do it!
Hosts roast. Gather your friends and select a few candidates. Say some nice things about them then roast them with embarrassing stories, jokes, and so on. Establish the rules and gain permission from the candidate first of course.
Maybe you need to find a mentor. Someone who inspires you to do more and be better.
Throw a pity party, but only for a few minutes, get it out of your system, and then do move on.
Host or attend a meeting + greet event in your area.
Document on social media your progress on becoming more confident. The feedback you get can be quite encouraging.
Dump the drama and toxicity and stop creating or feeding into drama. Remove toxic people from your life, which can be more challenging.
Expect the best and believe it will happen. Don't think about the what Ifs instead focus on what you will gain with a positive outcome.
Be defiant. Stop doing what you're told. Challenge authority. Make people uncomfortable. Break the rules. Don't ask for permission. Cut your own path. All within reason of course you know, stay within the law.
And then own your flaws. Being self-aware reduces how other people's thoughts affect you. Celebrate your successes for yourself. Even if nobody can celebrate with you, because maybe they don't know about it. It's not bragging as long as you give credit when others do help you, but don't give away all the credit, you deserve your own.
Dress like the person you want to be. If you want to wear bright lipstick, do that. Stand like Superman, tall and confident. Mirror the actions of confident people. Be bold. Acknowledge that failure happens. They are an acceptable part of learning.
And this one, stop being nice. Set firm boundaries and stick to them. Give compliments only when they are deserved, but not out of habit, say yes, when you want to, and when it's good for you, and don't worry about upsetting others. If you're not occasionally upsetting someone or you're being a little too nice!
And all of those things can really help you boost your confidence.
Competency can fill guard and start taking the action. We don't take action because we don't feel confident, and you know our skills and your abilities, and even in our mindset.
And if none of these work for you, I want you to think about all of the things you've overcome in your life. Just think about them and how you move through them. The actions that you've taken that you showed up even when you were probably quite afraid of showing up. When you've moved through that challenge and come out on the other side your confidence is within those areas.
Every time I doubt myself. I look at the things I've overcome. Whether it's you know succeeding and being alive in a foster care. I didn't become a junkie, and even if it's looking at things of like foster care, I moved through that I'm still here today. I didn't, you know, quit on myself in the process. I immigrated at eighteen to a country I knew nothing about. I didn't speak the language so you know, brazen bold, crazy. I raised my boys, not by myself, necessarily. You know, I've had support from my partner for sixteen years, and I've had friends that supported me along the way, as well because some things just can't be done by yourself.
I started a business. I started multiple businesses and several of them failed and several of them are still here. So I know that I can write blog posts and I can do marketing. I can set up my email. So there are things I know I can do.
And I just tap into those feelings, knowing that I know that and I can do that. I help people.
So just think about the things that you've overcome things that you do very naturally and tap into. Hey, you know what I do know what I'm doing and am good at it. And just start boosting your confidence moving forward.
I turned my passion into my profession! Not only do I get to create art every day, but I also get to help other creatives pursue their own dreams of bringing their ideas into reality, so they too can have the cake and eat it too!
I know firsthand how easy it is to make excuses and how to make those excuses disappear like magic.
I have a BS in Accounting and a Ms in Mental Health Counseling, and a dual “PhD” in overcoming adversity from the School of Life.